Midlife Enlightenment and Becoming Your Own Butterfly (or how to move on from being a disoriented grub)

Guest piece written by Forty & Everything After

Butterfly Life Cycle / Butterfly Metamorphosis

“The pupa stage is one of the coolest stages of a butterfly’s life.  As soon as a caterpillar is done growing and they have reached their full length/weight, they form themselves into a pupa, also known as a chrysalis.  From the outside of the pupa, it looks as if the caterpillar may just be resting, but the inside is where all of the action is. Inside of the pupa, the caterpillar is rapidly changing.

Now, as most people know, caterpillars are short, stubby and have no wings at all.  Within the chrysalis the old body parts of the caterpillar are undergoing a remarkable transformation, called ‘metamorphosis,’ to become the beautiful parts that make up the butterfly that will emerge”

Source: http://www.thebutterflysite.com/life-cycle.shtml#null

Turning forty was not a whole heap of fun for me. Things in the years prior hadn’t turned out quite as I had planned or imagined. My work life had turned sour, my dreams of starting a family had gone awry, and this had an inevitable impact upon my close relationships. I didn’t feel much like celebrating. In the preceding two decades I had pretty much known what the next step was, where I was supposed to be headed (note the ‘supposed to’ here. It turned out to be significant), and what actions I was going to take to move me toward those so well thought out goals. As I reached this supposedly momentous occasion however, I realised I was actually at a complete loss.

The realisation came over me that I had lost my way in life. My carefully laid out plan had burst into flames in front of my eyes and, in a confused and child-like manner, I sat on my own hands and said “Right, that is it! I don’t want to play anymore!”


Source: Midlife Enlightenment and Becoming Your Own Butterfly  (or how to move on from being a disoriented grub)



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9 thoughts on “Midlife Enlightenment and Becoming Your Own Butterfly (or how to move on from being a disoriented grub)

  1. Yes, trying to rack my brain for the right answers just seems counterproductive these days. But then I have to let go of the feeling that I’m running out of time. My brain has been in shut down mode for the last few days though. It seems to be helping.

    Thanks for your post. :-)

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    • Thank you for your comment :). I totally understand the fear you describe of running out of time. But the reality is none of us knows how long we may have to play with. Do we want to spend it worrying and stressing about that or making the most of the present day? After wearing myself out with the worrying and stressing I have finally had to give in and relinquish control. Whatever comes after that, at least I’m less exhausted. I’m glad your own period of quiet feels like it is beneficial. We’ll see where it gets us :)

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